No sorrow weep
No torment past
No lovers keep
No treasures last
No promises bound
No friends abide
No gladness found
No pain subside
No hunger filled
No thirst slake
No sickness healed
No repose take
Misdeed you'll pay
to never be free
Rue the day
that you wronged me
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Thursday, October 9, 2008
Of polygamy: double wives, double pleasure, double standards?
It was an interesting read on The Star Online today. Especially a particularly elucidating and humourous column by Dina Azman titled "Why do men take second wives?"
The writer started with how she nearly choked on her dinner when her friend confided that he wanted to have a second wife. Now I was thinking, seeing as he is a Muslim this should not have been such a rigmarole. However, the near-choking was brought on not by the intention to marry, but rather the prospective woman's impressive charms. Which would be situated somewhere on her chest area. That's right, boys ... Marry the mammaries! The article then continued their humourous dissections on the whys, hows and various other related nuggets concerning polygamy and infidelity.
Throughout my own meetings with people--friends, acquaintances and even random strangers--I found that we have adopted a double standard when it comes to our wives, husbands, toyboys and mistresses.
The other partner--usually a younger, trophy version that you can wave or brandish in others' faces when it came to that inevitable pissing contest--is showered and feted, catered to their [almost] every whims and wants. All this while, the original model like Milo-tin Proton Saga before it is left mouldering in self-recrimination and downward psycho-spiral.
Muslim men especially like to play the sunnah Nabi card. That is well and good. I do suggest however that they first study their Islamic history; the Prophet Muhammad (BBHN) married war widows to protect them. More to the point he provided for them equally. So bear that in mind gentlemen Muslims ... if you give a Tiffany bracelet to your second wife, the first wife is also entitled to one!
I suggest stocking up on credit cards and maintaining a good credit report.
I do not pretend to be an expert on all matters Islam. Neither do these men who mock it wantonly--yes, I used that word on purpose.
In the end, it doesn't really matter about one's race, religion, gender or sexual preference. People cheat because they can.
The writer started with how she nearly choked on her dinner when her friend confided that he wanted to have a second wife. Now I was thinking, seeing as he is a Muslim this should not have been such a rigmarole. However, the near-choking was brought on not by the intention to marry, but rather the prospective woman's impressive charms. Which would be situated somewhere on her chest area. That's right, boys ... Marry the mammaries! The article then continued their humourous dissections on the whys, hows and various other related nuggets concerning polygamy and infidelity.
Throughout my own meetings with people--friends, acquaintances and even random strangers--I found that we have adopted a double standard when it comes to our wives, husbands, toyboys and mistresses.
The other partner--usually a younger, trophy version that you can wave or brandish in others' faces when it came to that inevitable pissing contest--is showered and feted, catered to their [almost] every whims and wants. All this while, the original model like Milo-tin Proton Saga before it is left mouldering in self-recrimination and downward psycho-spiral.
Muslim men especially like to play the sunnah Nabi card. That is well and good. I do suggest however that they first study their Islamic history; the Prophet Muhammad (BBHN) married war widows to protect them. More to the point he provided for them equally. So bear that in mind gentlemen Muslims ... if you give a Tiffany bracelet to your second wife, the first wife is also entitled to one!
I suggest stocking up on credit cards and maintaining a good credit report.
I do not pretend to be an expert on all matters Islam. Neither do these men who mock it wantonly--yes, I used that word on purpose.
In the end, it doesn't really matter about one's race, religion, gender or sexual preference. People cheat because they can.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)